How To Tap Into Someone’s Psyche

The pinnacle of any…



Professional Constant Persuader (which could be anything from a boss… to a musician)

Professional Womanizer (kidding)

Is this simple fact.

Understanding the people around you –  what drives them – what motivates them – what makes them tick is a incredibly important and powerful skill.

Imagine you are a practitioner within any of these careers. And some of you very well maybe.

If you – as the practitioner within any of these fields…

Can tap into the deepest part of anyone’s psyche… and speak, sing, or even provide some sort of consoling or solution to a deep part of the psyche of these folks you’re tending to…

You will have an immense advantage. You will literally tap into their mind… and I’m sure I don’t have to tell you the potential outcomes here..


I will.

They will thank you – if you’re a counselor – and if you’re that man who chose to be a salesman or any iteration of that profession… you will make immense amounts of money. Or… have a *powerful* wielding of any social situation you seek to master… Including.. Women. It’s as simple as that.

So here’s how this article is going to establish the framework – this will be more of a in depth take on the concepts mentioned and explained within Incentives

Specifically – the concept of associations – and how they create the person from the ground up.

And precisely how this builds to a behavioral connotation per a situation.

Yes – it’s another article precisely hitting on this.

So consider this the spiritual predecessor to Incentives

Understanding the psychology – the why – produces a understanding and a blueprint to how to utilize this… as covered in the previous article.

Once again – I will give you some connected dots, and some tools.

The rest is up to you.

Let’s start.

From the minute you were born, there is 2 things that drove you – your inbred associative structures (your genetically encoded behavior sets + associations to survive)

And –

Your associative structures that were being created from your current stimuli.

This can be the perceived surroundings and your current interactions with them.

Are they hot? Are they cold? Do they feel good?

As a baby – you were 100% an egotistical creature – i.e. your entire set of behaviors is built to satisfy and comfort yourself.

Hence why you cry for your mother, and you cry for any discomforts.

You had the instinct – defined as a pre-built associative structure –

Side note: from now on, we will refer to associative structure as the “code” that runs in your brain to produce your behaviors and perceptions.


So when you were born – you came out of your mother’s womb with pre-coded instructions on how to survive.

As-well as a very plastic (modifiable) mind to build any code to rapidly learn the environment around you.

And we must reiterate – you are solely looking to survive at this point.

Your ego is en tasked with survival and procreation – and any human that is not aware or self mastered is solely just an extension of code on the basis of these 2 concepts.

Survival and Procreation.


Thus – we can extrapolate this simple fact.

As you grow older you are just adding onto the code underneath the survival + procreation code.

I.e. You might experiment with your combat skills (as you see many young boys do), by getting into fights.

You might see young girls experiment with home making skillsets when they are young because this is solely a instinctive pre-built program inside of these kids.

The differentiator between these behaviors is modified by the amount of saturation in-utero (within the mother’s womb) of testosterone before delivery through the womb.

So that means… the baby’s brain is dosed in T to determine the instinctual code systems that the baby is born with – determining what aspects of it’s genetic expressions of it’s egotistical tasks are activated.

So – to keep it short – girls are dosed less with T (still dosed) and boys are dosed with a ton of T – to write the basic code.

Then – as the children grow to around 5 years old – they are in a brain activity state that is:

  1. Experimenting (With the Surrounding Social Structure)
  2. Absorbing the Local Surroundings for Behavioral Patterns
  3. Expressing the Pre-built Coding within them

The pre-built code moves them to learn how to play games, and seek to socialize.

The pre-built code also moves them to within the developmental early stages to be tuned to a hypnotic frequency pattern of brain operation – thus they are hyper aware of the local behavioral pattern, coding themselves to fit into the local space.

Some people have lesser or more degrees of this pre-built code based on their genetic gift from their parents and their energy they were born under (which we won’t cover in this).

Thus there is the differentiation in their personality and behaviors, producing a different perspective…

Ultimately producing a entirely different code structure as the person goes through their life.

So as the person grows, they are constantly writing code based on:

  1. Their Emotional State (Modified by their Assignment of Value via Current Code)
  2. Their Perspective of Situations (What they can’t see/be aware of they can’t Code)

And you’ll see this play out in multiple different examples of people who have deeply inbred emotional issues of detachment problems as well as trust issues.

Because, during this 0 to 5 year period, the child builds essentially the base code for their entire life, that they will run the entirety of the rest of their code on.


And if they are purely emotional/egoistical  creatures the nature of the perspective will be based on a transactional in nature.

i.e. Based on the value perceived by the person (ex. if it is the person’s father figure, who’s been coded to be highly valuable and significantly higher status than the person) the nature of the transaction will reflect this perception.

Now I know this sounds very abstract, let’s put this into a much more concrete state to understand it from.


Imagine the transactional nature of chess, and the status you will perceive of white in this position.

As a child (black), any move with white (who is seen to have significantly higher status than you) is very much weighed to you.

Thus based on the value you observe based on the perceived status, their behaviors and interactions with you imprint heavily on to you, as your code views them as such.

Until it doesn’t. (Explained later).

So essentially your childhood is a dependent variable of how your parents treat you, based on the transactions of social engagements + exchanges you have with them. All observed based on the relative status (value) they hold, as well as the emotionality the child held during each event’s perception period.

And one must understand, value is always changing in relativity to the underlying code producing the judgement.

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A Simple Model of Behavior Based on what has been covered already within this article + Incentives

And here is the kicker – every social behavior is underpinned with this concept.

All social situations are dependent on the emotional content built within the jenga code that underpins your entire expression process.

Those times when you might have had anxiety when you were about to say something.. is from the time when you were a child, and your brain wrote code acknowledging that this expressed behavior (experimentation) lead to a potential situation that you might lose your life.

Thus, your body will produce a reaction that will examine the current situation with caution… with a gut feeling, and a surge of cortisol telling you – be careful what you do… you might die.

Quite literally.


With this information extrapolate to how that might be a palpable effect on other behaviors one might experience. (Hint: Insecurities).



The mind runs it through the system of assignment of value + memory of event, of how it had an emotional effect on them and thus builds the tower of jenga – the psyche of one’s code.


So throughout their life, they will build this code, and assign value based on the transactional nature of status to emotional content.

To explain this further, it would be like you sitting at a bar, and the woman you are attempting to convince into courtship now perceives you as high value (you gain status in the position with her), and based on this perception, her expression is modified to reflect this.

As a sales person, it would be the same case, if someone perceives you to be of high value, their perception will be modified by this now presented code (you are high value, I will listen to you more closely).

Back to the dating aspect, the woman will now express behaviors reflecting your status, and if your status is too high, and you aren’t forfeiting some position (with some women) they will feel burned just like a child might throw a fit in a chess game they have no chance of winning.

And by this, they will seek to exit the social situation, because they feeling very low of themselves (you’ve seen this before, the woman “pretending” a very good looking man isn’t around – also known as playing coy. A behavior expressed based on a woman’s underlying code from a behavior exhibited during childhood.)


This woman recognizes the value of the high status male, and seeks to gain a positional acknowledgement in the chess game of the social transaction.

Based on her code built from her life, she chose to express her frustration with her lower status in this situation – by pretending to ignore the high status man.

And there you have it.

This is another article filled with concepts that one should run across many times.

I’ve given you the tools to understand what makes people tick.

Finally within the regards of people who don’t act upon egotistical predilections (those who are “self mastered”) – they are able to recognize this code that produces their egotistical behaviors (coded based on survival + procreation) and edit it, or all together shut the code down.

Thus why I preach awareness and self mastery.

Very important.

Welcome to T&M.


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